Don't Feed the Bully
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Don't Feed The Bully/I'm Gonna Write That Down
Solution and researched based interventions
Handy’s first rule of dealing with bullies is STAY CALM. Here is more on how you can do this when confronted.
When you’re scared of another person, you’re probably not feeling your bravest. But sometimes just acting brave is enough to stop a bully. If you walk by as though you’re not
afraid and hold your head high, a bully may be less likely to give you trouble.
Ignore a bully
Simply ignoring a bully’s
threats and walking away robs the bully of his or her fun. Bullies want a big
reaction to their teasing and meanness. Acting as if you don’t notice and don’t
care is like giving no reaction at all, and this just might stop a bully’s
Stand up for yourself
Kids can stand up for themselves with words by telling the bully to stop it, and then walk away. Kids also can stand up for each other by telling a bully to stop teasing or scaring
someone else, and then walk away together.
Be a buddy
Kids who are being bullied can use the buddy system. Make a plan to walk with a friend or two on the way to school or recess or lunch or wherever you think you might meet the
bully. Offer to do the same for anyone, does not have to be a friend, who’s having trouble with a bully.
Don’t bully back
I know you want to, but Don’t hit, kick, or push
back to deal with someone bullying you or your friends. Fighting back just
satisfies a bully and it’s dangerous, too, because someone could get hurt. It’s
best to stay with others, stay safe, and get help from an adult.
(thanks to Kidhealth.org)
Handy, the main character in Don’t Feed the Bully, is very good at comebacks when he is being bullied, but we all aren’t so great at it. Below are some lines you can practice and use when bullies are trying to put you down. Rememberthese are for situations where there is no threat of violence. If there is ever violence you must get away and report. See below for how to use comebacks and the bullystoppers.com disclaimer. But remember, the I'm Gonna Write That Down program in a school takes away the need for memorization. There is only one thing to do, all the time, and it works! And any kids can remember it.
“You – You’re good!”
“Ok, I’m hurt.”
“Is this your goal in life or something?”
“Not getting tired of this?”
“That one hurt.”
“Sticks and stones.”
“You are wasting my time.”
“Funny….. funny. Laugh….laugh.”
a smile on his face….”
“You’re the KING”
What? Are you talking to me?
“Blah – blah”
“The real you can’t be this mean.”
“You used to be a good kid.”
“That was kind of funny, but stop.”
“Using me for laughs again?”
“I hope no one is doing this to your little
These comebacks are from bullystoppers.com (Disclaimer) Comebacks
are not for everyone! Comebacks can be helpful when dealing with mean kids, however, kids should practice comebacks with an adult. Comebacks don’t stop bullying, BUT they can increase confidence, which can
discourage bullies. Comebacks is not a return insult! Never use a comeback if a kid may become challenged or violent!